The Introvert Advantage: How to Thrive in an Extrovert World
The Introvert Advantage was written in 2002 by Marti Olsen Laney and has been described by many as a must read a non-fiction book for Introverts.
Being introverted myself I was eager to give this a go, I’d heard such good reviews and couldn’t wait to soak up some of that enthusiasm that others seemed to be feeling.
To begin with, I could see what the fuss was about, Laney knows exactly what it’s like to be an introvert, how exhausting it can be, frustrating even but then it became apparent that the negatives seem to be all that is outlined in this book or at least for the majority of it.
“The introvert is pressured daily, almost from the moment of awakening, to respond and conform to the outer world.”
― Marti Olsen Laney,
Laney describes being an introvert as though it’s some sort of handicap, an affliction which renders us useless in social situations and within the workplace as well as-as parents.
I struggled with this book despite really wanting to like it.
There were parts which drew me in such as the scientific studies carried out on the introvert and extrovert brain, I find facts like these fascinating but the advice on social occasions? No. Not at all. I may be introverted but I’m not socially inept and at times I felt almost insulted by Laney’s lists and coping methods.
“It was dimly lit with very few other people—just about my pace of excitement.”
― Marti Olsen Laney,
Despite being titled “How to Thrive in an Extrovert World” I got the impression that ‘thriving’ was the last thing any Introvert taking this advice would be doing. I cringed repeatedly whilst reading Olsen’s lists on coping with the day to day grind.
This book was an interesting read, but I did not enjoy it and I wouldn’t recommend it to anyone wanting to get to know the introverted mind more thoroughly.
I’m keen to hear about other books on Introvertism readers may recommend? It’s a subject I love to explore so please leave your recommendations down below!
Until next time,
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